How To Move On After A Break Up.

It is often hard for most people to move on after going through a messy divorce. The end point of every relationship is always a hard time, no matter who ended the relationship or when it ended. During those difficult times, the future can look frightening and blank, but life still goes on and many find happiness afterwards.

There are so many things which you need to focus on, try finding out what really went wrong. If your marriage had been a very difficult one, some days you might feel happy for not being in such marriage, while in other days you might feel bad and angry at yourself.

It is really an important thing to find out what went wrong during the time that you were married and try to sort yourself through it. Going through this phase can be very difficult as it comes with thoughts of bitterness and self blame. During this time, you can focus more on what the marriage was lacking and how the marriage failed to meet up to your own needs and your partners needs. But However you are here now, the question is, how do you move on from right where you are now. YES it is over, now where do you go from here. These are the things you should consider asking yourself. Rather than looking for pot holes in yourself, you should focus more on what you want now as a newly single person.

What and how is your newly single life going to be like.

However way your relationship has been, there will be times your emotions will bring in grief. You might start feeling unhappy for something the marriage lacked or for the things you did and didn't do.

Don't try to live with those self destroying feelings. Remember that the deed has already been done and loss is loss. There is no need for you to continue dwelling with those painful feelings. Let it go. At this point, its time for you to walk through your feelings. Don't try to bring in those hurtful feelings into your new life and relationships. Find a way to walk yourself out of those feelings. Do something interesting and fun.

Engage yourself in an outdoor activities. Try and join a support group..a suitable group which can help you grow out of pains. Also try to make supportive friends and build a support team. You might also want to see a professional caring therapist. Seeing a therapist will help you talk to someone who has no other agenda on the table but You alone.

Take care of yourself. As the days and months passes by, you need to concentrate on yourself. The bad end of relationships, often end in lost of confidence in oneself and brings low self esteem. Take care of yourself in all way round including in the health area of your life. Maintain a daily routine exercise. Write down a list of this you want to achieve with your new single status and more especially, seek for professional help.